While Whoopi Goldberg couldn’t get out of her previous marriages fast enough, Joy Behar‘s divorce turned her “homicidal.” On this morning’s episode of The View, the two co-hosts candidly reflected on their experiences getting divorced.
During the closing Hot Topics segment, the women discussed Real Housewives of Miami star Lisa Hochstein‘s messy split from her husband Lenny Hochstein, who recently became engaged to his alleged mistress — even though their divorce isn’t final yet. In response to the news, the opposing parties — including Lenny’s mother — took jabs at each other on social media.
“As somebody who’s been divorced, I just want to say that there’s a special type of rage involved when you get divorced,” Behar, who left her first husband in 1981, explained. “You’re murderous. You’re homicidal.”
She continued, “There’s something about — even if you want the divorce — there’s something about that wrenching that makes you homicidal.”
Alyssa Farah Griffin, who oftentimes shares her experience as a child of divorce, noted that the “problem doesn’t go away quickly” and that former couples can’t “fester and dwell” on the toxicity because it can distract them from “moving on.”
She added that divorce is “the hardest thing to get over” for most people — a stance Goldberg was quick to contradict.
“I was dancing and prancing around, I was so glad to get out of there. Every time,” she said. “Because I always thought, ‘You didn’t want to do this from the giddy-up. You knew you didn’t want to do it and you did it anyway so shut up and move on.’”
Despite knowing she never wanted to get married, Goldberg went through with it regardless — three times, to be exact.
“I thought I could make a round hole go into a square peg,” she said. “I thought that was what was for me. I was never meant to be married. I know that and I knew that then. I kept trying to do what everybody said I was supposed to do. And then it was like, ‘This is getting expensive and boring.’”