A woman’s fiancé insisted she paid for his and his friends’ meals because she got a salary raise. Having had enough, she snuck out of the restaurant, forcing her fiancé to pay for their food, which he couldn’t afford.
A woman’s fiancé constantly gaslighted her about her financial capacity. It came to a point where he demanded she pay for their meals whenever they went out with his friends.
On Reddit, the woman narrated the sticky situation she was in. She wanted to see whether or not people thought she was wrong for what she did.Throughout her relationship with her fiancé, the woman kept her finances separate. They never shared a joint account because her fiancé didn’t want one.
Around the fifth month of their engagement, the woman got a raise. She and her husband deduced that she now earned 30% more than he did.
Since getting a raise, the woman noticed her fiancé would constantly request for her to pay for him and his friends. “Why should I pay for this?” she’d ask him. “The 30%, that’s why,” he’d reply.
Because of the way her fiancé was treating her, the woman felt as if he was implying she didn’t deserve the raise. It was like he was taking the salary raise against her and that it was unfair.
Her fiancé enjoyed eating out with his friends. Several times, they’d ask the woman to join them, and he’d trick her into paying for the entire meal by asking her publicly.Admittedly, the woman was always too nice to say no. She hated confrontation, so she’d suck it up, smile, and pay for the bill.
One day, she finally had enough. Her fiancé asked her once more if she could join him and his friends for dinner.
She obliged, but from the moment they left for the restaurant, she had already made it clear to him that she wouldn’t be footing the bill. He assured her that wasn’t the case and said it was on him.Everything was going well that dinner until, in the middle of the meal, he whispered in her ear that she’d be paying for everything. She was furious and whispered back a resounding “no.”
Like clockwork, the man knew his fiancée hated causing a scene in public. So, he publicly announced yet again that the woman had enough money to pay for everyone’s food because of the 30%.The woman was livid. She waited until the bills were on the table to make her move.
The restaurant already split the bills from the start between the woman and the rest of the party. She paid for her order and excused herself to the restroom.
Then, she made the bold move of sneaking out of the restaurant and driving herself home. Soon after, she got phone calls from her fiancé demanding to know where she was.
She told him he didn’t appreciate being put in the spot again and being tricked into paying for other people’s meals. Hours later, her man caused a scene at home.He began yelling at her, calling her different names. He claimed it was childish of her to leave him like that, abandoning him with a bill he could not pay for.
The woman’s fiancé called her “selfish, irrational, cheapskate, and childish.” He went on to say his friends were disappointed and asked him to think about the type of woman he was going to marry.
People Sided with the Woman
Ultimately, the woman felt she did nothing wrong. However, because of how her fiancé reacted, she felt the need to seek help online.
People on the internet made sure to give the woman an awakening. They felt she was putting herself in a bad situation based on the man she chose to marry.”Why are you marrying someone who insists that his money is his money, but your money is also his money?” one person asked.
“I’m guessing the root is that he’s a misogynist and angry that a woman is earning more than him,” another man commented.
“I feel like you’re the one that needs to do the reflecting on the type of man you’ll be married to…” a user added.
People on Reddit made it clear that the woman was being manipulated by her fiancé. They hoped she was wise enough to dump him and save herself from further torment.
AITA for sneaking out of the restaurant after my fiance told me to pay for his and his friends meal?
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Do you think the woman was right for sneaking out of the restaurant? What would you do if you were in her place?