Barbara Eden’s life has been marked by both incredible highs and devastating lows. Her son, Matthew Michael Ansara, born during the height of her career, brought immense joy to her life. However, his untimely death left an indelible mark on her heart.
Barbara juggled her legendary career and raising her son. However, motherhood was her first priority. Barbara recalled how she almost gave up the lead role in “I Dream of Jeannie” because of the pilot’s premiere and the timing of her pregnancy.
Sidney devised an almost foolproof method to hide Barbara’s pregnancy. They covered her with numerous veils and ensured she was filmed only from the waist up or from a distance.
“Consequently, I worked on I Dream of Jeannie right up until the eighth month of my pregnancy, and filmed eleven episodes of the show during that time,” narrated Barbara.A month before the premiere of “I Dream of Jeannie,” Barbara woke up with agonizing pains at two in the morning. She and her ex-husband, Michael Ansara, drove to the hospital.
Michael waited anxiously as Barbara went into the delivery room. 12 hours later, their son, Matthew Michael Ansara, was born.
Barbara described baby Matthew as, “a big baby with dark eyes, long dark eyelashes, enviably thick dark hair, and a sweet smile.” She and Michael called him their, “Lucky-charm baby.” The two were excited to finally have a child, whom they loved immensely.
The actress gushed, “Our joy was boundless, and our hopes that he would live a healthy and happy life were unlimited. Matthew meant everything to both of us and always would.”
Barbara got pregnant with her second son almost a year later. She was looking forward to giving Matthew a sibling but sadly she miscarried in her third trimester.
She opened up about the ordeal, saying, “I carried my second son for almost eight months [in 1971] before the doctors told me he had died in the womb. It was awful. I became numb.”
The worst thing the actress went through during this period was breaking the news to Matthew. It broke her heart she wasn’t going to have another son and he wasn’t going to have a brother.
Barbara felt overwhelmed and deeply troubled after losing her child. Despite the love and support from her husband and her son, she felt something was intensely wrong.
In that era, seeking psychiatric help was not common, so she had to navigate her grief and confusion on her own. Eden returned to work, lost a significant amount of weight, and felt a persistent sense of inadequacy and despair.
Nowadays, she reflects that people are more likely to seek professional help for such deep emotional distress. She urges these people to take this opportunity and get assistance.Barbara also shared her experience raising Matthew after she lost her second son. The two would go to the market together and travel overseas on Barbara’s many professional commitments.
One time, when they were all going home from the Persian Gulf, the family made one last stop at an army base in Italy. While there, Matthew got into the cockpit and they took a picture of him.The actress also remembered that their used to be a spot in her kitchen where Matthew loved. He would say, “Mom, that’s a great view. I love to just stand here and drink it in.”
Just as Barbara loved him, so did Matthew adore his mom. He looked up to the actress and once said, “My mother is one of the strongest people I have ever met.”
The actress’s time with her son on earth was cut short when Matthew died on June 25, 2001. He was discovered at night by an attendant at a Chevron gas station in Monrovia, east of Los Angeles.
Matthew was slumped over the steering wheel of a parked car. Paramedics responded to the scene and declared him dead at 9:15 p.m. His death came as a shock as he wasn’t ill and as a bodybuilder, he looked extremely fit.
Barbara Eden’s spokesperson, Gene Schwam, said the actress was called at 3:30 a.m. and notified of the death of her son. The movie star, who had undergone two divorces and was in the middle of planning a wedding was devastated by the loss of her son.
Later, it was revealed that Matthew died of an accidental heroin overdose. Barbara revealed that her son first got hooked up to marijuana at an early age. The addiction was intensified as he had a marked genetic predisposition to addiction.
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Marijuana addiction led Matthew to use harder drugs later on. At first, Barbara did not recognize the tell-tale signs that her son was an addict. Matthew was a darling, charming, and beautiful human inside and out when she was sober and clean.
However, when he was on drugs, he would sleep a lot and have bouts of anger. Since his parents did not know from the onset of his addiction, they could not help from the start. Matthew was also too young to know he needed rehab or help.
“It’s a wonder he lived to be 35,” his mom acknowledged. His mother was often worried about his safety. One time, Barbara spent days looking for Matthew all over town, including in bars and under freeways.
For a difficult month, she called his friends but none had seen him. Barbara didn’t know where her son was or where he was living. Finally, they located Matthew, who had been living partly with a friend and partly on the streets.
Barbara knew her son was hooked on heroin and did not know what she could do to help him. At 29, Matthew was diagnosed with clinical depression and put on medication. He did not have a job and couldn’t stay in school.
The actress lived on the precipice of fear, waiting for the inevitable to happen. Her worst fears came true when she was informed that her son had died after accidentally taking a lethal dose of heroin.Barbara says that there is noting as worse as losing a child. When Matthew died, she was consumed with guilt and anger and was always on the brink of tears. “Even though he was 35, he was still my baby,” she mourned.
Recently, when asked how she keeps the memory of her son alive, Barbara said, “You’re gonna make me cry…I have his pictures around.” The actress ensures her son lives on even in his death, by ensuring she doesn’t pretend that he never existed.
Barbara revealed that her son was a “Super, super human being.” She also spent a significant period attempting to transform her grief into a meaningful purpose.