The Pressures Men Face
Boys are often raised to believe that showing emotion or vulnerability is a sign of weakness. As a result, men rarely discuss their stresses or seek support, often feeling embarrassed or ashamed when they shed tears or ask for help. Phillip Herron’s story is a stark reminder for men to be kinder to themselves and for women to be compassionate regarding their struggles.
Hopelessness and Despair
Phillip Herron wasn’t just in debt; he was also waiting on a delayed payday loan. At the time of his death, he had only $4.61 in his bank account and was worried about telling his children there would be no visit from Santa that year. In his suicide note, he heartbreakingly wrote that “his children would be better off without him.”
Men Need Support Too
Phillip Herron’s tragic story sheds light on issues affecting many. It underscores the negative effects of rising costs while incomes and benefits remain stagnant or are cut. It also highlights the daily struggles men face, feeling they have no one to turn to in times of crisis, despite needing good mental health and support as much as anyone else.
Contrary to popular belief, it’s common for men to experience mental health issues such as depression, anxiety, or burnout. Statistics show that 1 in 10 men suffer from these issues, but less than half seek treatment. Men are four times more likely to die by suicide annually than women. Societal pressures often make men feel they must always be the providers, exacerbating their struggles.
The Adverse Effects of Poor Mental Health
Like women, men face serious health risks when suffering from mental health disorders, including:
Substance abuse or other addictive behaviors
Digestive tract problems
Heart disease
Sleep disorders
Increased risk of stroke
Rapid weight changes
Steps to Maintain Mental Health
Due to the stigma around men’s mental health, it can be difficult for them to address their inner struggles. However, men are not immune to emotions or mental challenges and need support just like women. Awareness and desire for change are growing, and men are gaining more allies. In the meantime, some steps can help facilitate good mental health:
Maintain friendships
Identify your support system
Eliminate unhealthy coping mechanisms
Find healthy hobbies
Stay physically active
Practice gratitude, mindfulness, or breathing exercises
Validate your feelings
Making time for friendships builds bonds and reinforces the idea that someone is there for you in tough times. Healthy hobbies with friends can provide a much-needed break from life’s stresses.
Women’s Support Systems
While men and women face different struggles, no one is immune to mental health disorders. Statistically, women have more outlets and social networks to lean on. They often join groups like book clubs or yoga classes, creating a sense of community that helps stave off certain mental health problems. This model could be beneficial for men as they navigate their feelings and work towards good mental health.
Supporting Each Other
Being a single parent is challenging for anyone, especially with three children. Phillip Herron struggled with his stresses, feeling he had no support. His friends and family were unaware of his struggles, a situation more common than many realize. Checking in on loved ones and reminding them of their importance is essential. Support is crucial, regardless of one’s comfort with vulnerability or gender. We all experience a complex range of emotions, and navigating them is tough if society always tells you not to.
Phillip Herron’s story is a powerful reminder of the importance of mental health and the need for a strong support system for everyone.